INFERTILITY FACTS NEWS AND VEIWS – 10 reasons for wanting another child

The other day I was checking my blog traffic feed as I often do, to see the traffic on my blog and what people are reading, I came across this post that I did some time ago entitled, “10 reasons for wanting another child.”  I found it quite interesting and just thought that it would be a good idea to refer to that post on days when I feel physically inadequate to deal with my two energizer bunnies, just to make sure that I was not out of my mind when we decided to have another child.

Our son is involved in extra-curricular activities at school and that I am indeed grateful for, because this means that I just have my daughter for some days. On a day like today, though, I felt totally inadequate caring for just her. Even though the ratio was even, I was no match for her and many times had to resort to locking us both in our bedroom just to save on my energy.

My husband’s parents on many occasions would just take one look at our children and say, "that is exactly how their father was, busy, busy". Today I asked my father-in-law again, did you say my husband was quite busy as a child, just to confirm that my gene is not at play here. He responded, “oh yes.”

 As for me, my parents said I was an easy baby. All I needed was to be placed in my crib with my pillow and all was well with the world. She said I did not even cry when I was hungry, she just knew based on my meal timing.

So, here goes, read for yourselves, 10 reasons for wanting another child:-

http://onereachinganother.blogspot.com/2012/05/ten-reasons-for-wanting-another-child.html

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OUR STORY…….STILL TOUCHING LIVES

On occasions lately, when I am contemplating what to post to my blog, in the back of my mind I am wondering, if people have had enough of our infertility story. Yes, we triumphed against all odds to become parents, albeit after the better part of a decade, but I am pretty sure we are not the only ones. Then I am reminded that our story is still quite amazing and still relevant….

Recently my sister-in-law emailed me from abroad, asking me permission to use information from my blog in a talk she was doing at her Church on Mothers’ Day. I was delighted, and I quickly responded, of course, I would be deeply honored.

Just last week a friend of ours came by. My husband is doing some work for his wife and so, while they were involved in a meeting, our friend and I began catching up, because we had not seen each other in a little while. Where is my daughter? he asked. I told him she was asleep. Immediately a big smile appeared on his face and then he said, “you now have your pair, I just can’t believe it, I think about you guys every day.” I was so taken by this. Isn’t it nice to know that you are in some one’s thoughts every day, especially knowing that this is because of something positive, your triumph in life.

Yesterday at Church, I was holding our daughter when a young lady and I began talking. As a result of the conversation we were having, I began telling her that every time my father sees our daughter, he would remark that my husband and I have brought back his mother to life, because she reminds him so much of his own mother. She said she has had the same experience with her daughter as well. I then said to her that one of the reasons that I fought so hard to have children of my own, was because I really wanted to see how they would look, and who they would look like. I then went on to say to her that there is a lady, now deceased, who would say to me from time to time, “I really want to see what your children would look like and this would motivate me even more to continue my infertility fight. You could see how delighted she was to hear this and then she quickly remarked. “God is truly awesome, I use your story from time to time in practice. (she is a OBGYN).

I came home from Church yesterday thinking, I do have a post for my blog tomorrow and while muddling over how I would formulate this post, one thing kept jumping out at me. Our story is big, bigger than us,  and the sooner we realize this, the better we are able to grasp the depth and width it reaches and the fact that it will forever be relevant. 

Last week in my 'Grateful Wednesday; post, I wrote that each of us have a unique life journey and things that happens to us in our lives are for the most part divinely ordered, according to this journey. Our infertility struggle, I know was divinely ordered and so we would not have had it any other way. God gave us this cross on our journey so that he could be glorified.

As added bonus, last evening while having dinner, our son remarked, “I love my family, I love my daddy, I love my mommy and I love my sister. He then got up and hugged each of us. My heart was full. My husband looked over at me with a smile and said, post for your blog, I said, of course. How could I not find a way to include this in my post today.

GOD IS TRULY AMAZING. 

HERBS FOR INVITRO-FERTILIZATION

Since herbs played a huge role in making my husband and I parents, I am always happy to share information on my blog about other herbs that I come across which can help in this regard.

This one I am particularly interested in because it is the first time that I am coming across one that has a part to play in invitro-fertilization.

Embryo Implantation Herbal Support (Prenatal Herbal Support) contains a balanced combination of herbs which helps in the embryo implantation process. 

I know there is a lot of stress associated with the Invitro-Fertilization process, as I have read many stories in this regard. Some good news then, this product is said to also relieve stress and prevents weight gain.

If you are so interested, follow the link below to learn more:-

http://ivfherbalsupport.com//ivf-embryo-implantation-herbal-support-p-2.html?gclid=CJSmlfq7ybUCFQGunQod6lkAtg

As a people, we are very ambitious and this is good, there is however a downside to this. We can lose our selves in pursuing self-advancement; a bigger degree for that bigger salary, a bigger house, a newer car, and find ourselves wondering, why am I not happy, why does my life feel so dull. The thing is we forget to be thankful for the little things that we already have, without which, our lives would not mean much. Our relationships, our health, our faith, our freedom, I could go on.


There are times in my life when I feel I could have achieved more in certain areas, and as a result I beat upon myself and take on a woe is me attitude. Thankfully, I am soon reminded that less I be accused of being ungrateful, I do have things to be thankful for.


In my pursuit to become a more thankful and happier person, in general then, I am urged to add a new posting feature to my blog, a segment dedicated to being thankful, which I have decided to call ‘GRATEFUL WEDNESDAYS', where I will post all the things in my life that I am thankful for, regardless of how small. 

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I choose to begin this segment by being thankful for my Infertility Struggles. Yes, you read right. I am grateful for my struggles with  infertility because without it, I would not be the person I am today, a more patient, empathetic and less judgemental person. 

I remember when I was at the darkest in my infertility struggles, one of my Pastors who from time to time checked on me to see how I was doing, mentioned that my struggles would one day help others. My struggles took on new meaning as helping others became my goal, which gave me added strength to come out of these struggles victorious. Finally a Mom became a reality approx. 2 years after our son was born and I am satisfied that its purpose is being achieved, as I am seeing the fruits of my labour.

FOR THIS I AM FOREVER GRATEFUL






Feel free to join me in this effort and Post things that you too, are thankful for.

I’LL HAVE WATER WITH THAT PLEASE!!!!!!

Many of us find it so difficult to drink the required eight glasses of water each day, even though we know that water, that we so often take for granted, is part of/or the cure for so many things that ails us, infertility included.

Do not take my word for it though, check out this fellow blogger’s blog and see what the experts are saying about Japanese water treatment for fertility.

http://infertility-fertility.blogspot.com/2011/07/japanese-water-treatment-for-fertility.html

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LIGHT MOMENT FRIDAYS – Feature 11

'Sorry I was not able to upload my regular light moment Friday image as Blogger seem to be having some problems.'

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All of us who struggle with infertility can attest to the fact that it robs us of our happiness. It robs us of our ability to truly laugh and this is why I have come up with this new feature on my blog, called ‘Light Moment Fridays.’ I love Fridays, and I guess it is because this is the beginning of a well awaited weekend. I love the casual laid back mood. This is why I have chosen Fridays for this, where I will post short jokes and funny videos. Our son is at the stage now where he says or does things which is so hilarious, so I will share some of those precious moments with you as well.

This is for you all, especially those of us  who struggle to be happy, amidst our hurts and pain.......DO ENJOY!!!!

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LITTLE JOHNNY STRIKES AGAIN..........

For my international readers, little Johnny is a school age fictitious character, known for having the darnest answers in class. He is his teachers' worst nightmare and so they have to be prepared for his bold sharp wit at all times.

The teacher asked the class to use the word 'fascinate' in a sentence. 

Molly put up her hand and said, 'My family went to my granddad's farm and we all saw his pet sheep. It was fascinating.'
The teacher said, 'That was good, but I wanted you to use the word fascinate, not fascinating'.
 
Sally raised her hand. She said, 'My family went to see Rock City and I was fascinated.'
The teacher said, 'Well, that was good Sally, but I wanted you to use the word 'fascinate.'
 
Little Johnny raised his hand.  

The teacher hesitated because she had been burned by Little Johnny before. She finally decided there was no way he could damage the word 'fascinate', so she called on him for his offering.
 
Johnny said, 'My aunt Gina has a sweater with ten buttons, but her tits are so big she can only fasin eight.'
 
The teacher sat down and cried.

LIGHT MOMENT FRIDAYS – Feature 8

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All of us who struggle with infertility can attest to the fact that it robs us of our happiness. It robs us of our ability to truly laugh and this is why I have come up with this new feature on my blog, called ‘Light Moment Fridays.’ I love Fridays, and I guess it is because this is the beginning of a well awaited weekend. I love the casual laid back mood. This is why I have chosen Fridays for this, where I will post short jokes and funny videos. Our son is at the stage now where he says or does things which is so hilarious, so I will share some of those precious moments with you as well.

This is for you all, especially those of us  who struggle to be happy, amidst our hurts and pain.......DO ENJOY!!!!

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This is hilarious.  I hope the swear word in the last line wont offend anyone.

Note to self: 'Cancel credit cards prior to  death!    

> Be sure and cancel your credit cards before you die! This is so priceless 
> and so easy to see happening - customer service, being what  it is today! 
> 
> A lady died this  past January, and CBIC bank billed her for February and 
> March for their annual  service charges on her credit card,  and 
> then added late fees and interest  on the monthly charge. The balance  had 
> been $0.00, now is somewhere around  $60.00. 
> 
> A family member placed a call to the CBIC Bank: 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'I am calling to tell you that she died in January.' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'The account was never closed and the late fees and charges still apply.' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Maybe you should  turn it over to collections.' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'Since it is two months past due, it already has  been.' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> So, what will they do when they find out she is dead?' 
> 
CBIC: 
> 'Either report her account to the frauds division or report her to 
> the credit bureau, maybe both!' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Do you think God will be mad at her?' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'Excuse  me?' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Did you just get what I was telling you . . . the part about  her 
> being dead?' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'Sir, you'll have to speak to my supervisor.' 
> 
> Supervisor gets on the phone: 
> Family Member: 
> 'I'm calling to tell you, she died in January.' 
> 
CBIC: 
> 'The account was never closed and the late fees and charges still apply.' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'You mean you want to collect from her estate?' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> (Stammer)  'Are you her lawyer?' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'No, I'm her great  nephew.' 
> (Lawyer info given) 
> 
CBIC: 
> 'Could you fax us a certificate of death?' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Sure.' 
> ( fax number is given ) 
> 
> After they get the fax: 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'Our  system just isn't set up for death. I don't know what more I 
> can do to help.' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Well, if you figure it out, great! If not, you could just keep billing 
> her. I don't think she will care.' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'Well,  the late fees and charges do still apply.' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Would you like her new billing address?' 
> 
> CBIC: 
> 'That might help.' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> '  Rookwood Memorial   Cemetery , 1249 Centenary Rd, Sydney Plot Number 
> 1049.' 
> 
CBIC: 
> 'Sir, that's a cemetery!' 
> 
> Family Member: 
> 'Well, what  the f**k do you do with dead people on your planet?'  

“The sun will come out tomorrow”

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand.”
Psalm 127: 3 & 4

Are you feeling particularly beaten up by infertility today? Are feelings of inadequacy, inferiority and hopelessness crippling you causing you to feel like you want to give up, throw in the towel and find a cave somewhere so that you can be by yourself and wallow in self-pity? As one who has had many of these days during my struggle with primary infertility, I know you have them too.

It is not practical and sensitive of me to say, do not let these days get you down, because that is exactly what they are designed to do, to take the wind out of your sail and cause you to feel like you are being kicked while down.

Instead I will tell you that when those days and those feelings come, it is important that you stay in the moment. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, to feel the pain. Do not get out of bed if you don’t feel like and have to, cry if you feel like, as hard as you possible can because, guess what, “the sun will come out tomorrow, bet your bottom dollar.” The words of this song are so true because I found that somehow when tomorrow came there was usually new energy, new hope and a new resolve steering me onwards. I guess it is because that is what a new day brings, newness. The Psalmist says, “Your mercies are new every morning Lord, great is thy faithfulness.”


I might have mentioned a couple times on my blog that I am a stutterer. Well, I struggle with feelings of inferiority and inadequacy from I was conscious that I stutter. It did not help when I learnt that I would have to deal with infertility as well. To me, that was a double whammy. To say life has been hard for me because of these struggles would be an understatement. With the help of God though, I have managed to overcome one of my struggles as you all know and not only have I overcome this struggle, I have purposed to support and offer encouragement and help in my own small way to others who are struggling in this regard, by way of this blog. That is a great accomplishment I must say, as I did not know that I would ever be at this place in my life.

What I am saying then is if I did not give up (and at times had good reasons to), I have confidence that you won’t either and you will be a better person for it. It was brought to my attention recently by a fellow blogger that we who struggle are more sensitive and empathetic to others. For quite some time now I find that I surround myself with people who at times need a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on, so this seem very true. I guess it is because we understand pain all too well, we understand yearning and most of all we understand that we cannot take anything or anyone for granted and guess what, we are better friends, better brothers, better sisters, overall better individuals because of this, so, when the bad days and the feelings of inferiority and inadequacy comes, just remember this and you won’t feel too shabby at all. I take comfort in this as well, to help me deal with my struggles that continues.



Be encouraged therefore, and as usual, keep clinging to hope.

My Infertility Story – C O N C L U S I O N

You have now read my story and normally I would have said, I hope you are encouraged, but I know you have in fact been encouraged, as I have heard from some you.

Part of the reason why I decided to put my story out via blogging was because I knew I would be able to offer encouragement to those who are struggling with infertility in a way that few probably can, having struggled for over a decade (twelve years exactly) and in such an incredibly difficult way. I am still to hear of someone who has struggled for as long as we did. I have heard of persons struggling for up to six years but none over a decade so far. I remember my mother-in-law was offering encouragement to a co-worker of hers who has been struggling with infertility. She told her how long it took us to finally have our baby, and the person responded, "am I to sit around and wait that long?" If someone told us that we would have had to sit around for that long, I would have said the same thing to them because it is really a difficult thing to have to do.

We who have struggled and those who are currently struggling with infertility are connected in a way that few could ever understand, and even though we maybe worlds apart, it is comforting to know that with the use of technology, we can read each other stories and find comfort in knowing that we are not alone, we struggle in the same way. We might not be connected by blood, but we are certainly connected in tears, in yearning, in shattered dreams and in hope that one day infertility will just be something we once struggled with.

Those of you who have read my story and did not know much about infertility and how it affects us who struggle with it, I am sure now has a clearer picture and can empathize with those you know who are currently on this journey. During my time of struggle I was judged by some and sadly these persons do have children and therefore could not possibly understand the pain associated with struggling with infertility. I remember one comment someone made, and every time I remember it, it breaks my heart all over again. The comment is, I have walked off my job because of trying to have a child and is stressing out my husband. Clearly this person does not understand how this thing can consume you to the point where you are not able to function normally. She also knows nothing about my struggles and I am hoping that she will access my story so that she can understand and feel sorry that she ever judged me in that way.

Finally, I hate to sound like a scratch record, but that is what my blog is set up to do, to encourage and give hope to you struggling with infertility. Therefore, I want to say, do not give up hope. Do everything in your power to beat this. It is said that when you have done your best, angels in heaven cannot do more, so fight on and remember, as I have said before, if you have exhausted all your other options, then adoption can be considered. Adoption can even be considered if you have not yet exhausted all your options and can afford to. Persons have done this and still go on to having their biological child, as the body now becomes more relaxed as that yearning ceases for the time being, therefore causing pregnancy to be achieved.

Thanks for taking time out to read my story and do join me as I continue to offer encouragement and hope and information geared at helping you with your struggle, through this blog.

DO REMEMBER, WE DID IT, SO YOU CAN DO IT TOO!!!!!!!!