OUR STORY…….STILL TOUCHING LIVES

On occasions lately, when I am contemplating what to post to my blog, in the back of my mind I am wondering, if people have had enough of our infertility story. Yes, we triumphed against all odds to become parents, albeit after the better part of a decade, but I am pretty sure we are not the only ones. Then I am reminded that our story is still quite amazing and still relevant….

Recently my sister-in-law emailed me from abroad, asking me permission to use information from my blog in a talk she was doing at her Church on Mothers’ Day. I was delighted, and I quickly responded, of course, I would be deeply honored.

Just last week a friend of ours came by. My husband is doing some work for his wife and so, while they were involved in a meeting, our friend and I began catching up, because we had not seen each other in a little while. Where is my daughter? he asked. I told him she was asleep. Immediately a big smile appeared on his face and then he said, “you now have your pair, I just can’t believe it, I think about you guys every day.” I was so taken by this. Isn’t it nice to know that you are in some one’s thoughts every day, especially knowing that this is because of something positive, your triumph in life.

Yesterday at Church, I was holding our daughter when a young lady and I began talking. As a result of the conversation we were having, I began telling her that every time my father sees our daughter, he would remark that my husband and I have brought back his mother to life, because she reminds him so much of his own mother. She said she has had the same experience with her daughter as well. I then said to her that one of the reasons that I fought so hard to have children of my own, was because I really wanted to see how they would look, and who they would look like. I then went on to say to her that there is a lady, now deceased, who would say to me from time to time, “I really want to see what your children would look like and this would motivate me even more to continue my infertility fight. You could see how delighted she was to hear this and then she quickly remarked. “God is truly awesome, I use your story from time to time in practice. (she is a OBGYN).

I came home from Church yesterday thinking, I do have a post for my blog tomorrow and while muddling over how I would formulate this post, one thing kept jumping out at me. Our story is big, bigger than us,  and the sooner we realize this, the better we are able to grasp the depth and width it reaches and the fact that it will forever be relevant. 

Last week in my 'Grateful Wednesday; post, I wrote that each of us have a unique life journey and things that happens to us in our lives are for the most part divinely ordered, according to this journey. Our infertility struggle, I know was divinely ordered and so we would not have had it any other way. God gave us this cross on our journey so that he could be glorified.

As added bonus, last evening while having dinner, our son remarked, “I love my family, I love my daddy, I love my mommy and I love my sister. He then got up and hugged each of us. My heart was full. My husband looked over at me with a smile and said, post for your blog, I said, of course. How could I not find a way to include this in my post today.

GOD IS TRULY AMAZING. 

WHO IS A MOTHER

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The English Thesaurus (United Kingdom), describes a mother with the following phrases/terms, look after, care for, protect, nurse, tend.

A mother then, is a very broad term used to describe more than just women who have given  birth to children of their own. The Godmother, the Foster Mother, the Adopted Mother, the sister with no biological children of her own, but find herself caring for her siblings children, even the friend, who for some reason or another find herself caring for the children of a very good friend.

Not to be forgotten are the Mothers of some precious little angels in heaven. May 1 was International baby lost Mother’s Day and I want to do my little bit in acknowledging these special Mothers, as I believe that a woman becomes a mother from the moment it is confirmed that she is pregnant, because from that moment on bonding between mother and child begins.  The only different is, her children are not physically with her here on earth, they are in heaven with God, waiting for that great reunion. I am privileged to be a mother of one of these little angels and I cannot wait for the moment when we will be reunited.

This Mother’s Day, I want to acknowledge and honour ALL mothers. May you find joy and most of all a greater purpose in what you do. May you never grow weary in well-doing and not get too caught up in seeking earthly appreciation, but know that your reward is in heaven.

May everyday be an opportunity to learn and to impart knowledge and may you grow in grace, patience and virtue.

HAPPY  MOTHER’S  DAY

  

N.B. If you want to know more about International baby lost Mother’s Day, please check out the following link

http://internationalbabylostmothersday.blogspot.com/

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warriors hand
Psalm 127: 3 & 4

It is indeed a great privilege to wish you all a happy Mother’s Day and I am very happy that I am now a part of this very esteemed group.

Mothers Day of 2007 found me very pregnant (eight months) with my son and as the mothers at my Church were called up to be honored, I remember sitting there wondering, should I go, I am not really a mother as yet, but for sure God's willing, I will be when the next one comes around. As I sat there pondering, someone came and suggested that I joined the other mothers. I got up promptly because by then I started thinking, of course I am a mother, It was only a little over a year ago that I gave birth to our daughter. She was dead, but her spirit and soul is very much alive and so that should qualify me.

Might I say that I gave birth in the normal natural way reserved for any normal pregnancy. I felt the same pains, maybe not as intense as a full term pregnancy, but it was pain nevertheless.

As I started walking to join the other mothers, tears began to well up in my eyes. I was crying because finally I was taking this walk, a walk that I yearned for, for so many years now. I was also crying because in exactly a month my struggles with infertility would be over as I would give birth to my son and would not have to wonder mothers days to come, if I was so qualified.

I know Mothers days are hard for those struggling to be a mother. Many mothers days passed, during my struggle, I had to actually will myself to not fall to pieces and had to, on occasions purchase something new to wear to Church to boost my spirits.

I remember the Mothers day after we lost our daughter, my goddaughter called very early in the morning to wish me happy Mother’s day, just when I was thinking that I might not be able to make it through the day. I got out of bed shortly thereafter as I received renewed hope and was so encouraged that one special little girl felt that I meant so much to her for her to do that.

So be encouraged, something might just come your way this Mothers day to remind you that you matter. You might not be a mother but someone might just think you are special to honor you in some way this Mothers day.

I feel compelled to tell you, your HAPPY MOTHERS DAY might be just around the bend, so keep clinging to hope.



ALL THE VERY BEST!!!!!!