It won’t hurt if
we use wisdom when we speak to each other concerning certain subjects, like,
for someone who is struggling with
infertility, don’t tell them that their struggles is a blessing in disguise
because of how expensive and difficult it
is to raise children. Trust me, they won’t see it that way and they will resent
you. During my infertility struggles, I
had it said to me a few times, why was I
so stressed about having children, It got to me even more when someone I cared
about a lot told me that she does not thin k that she would be so stressed and
troubled if she had to struggle to have children. I knew she meant well, but I
just could not receive that at the moment, instead I said to myself, how cruel,
how could she say this when she has a child.
In the same way,
you , a married individual, cannot say to someone who wants to be married to never do it because marriage is hard work and that they should be happy they are currently alone and have no one to answer to.
I know you most likely mean well, but they will resent you for saying this.
The thing is , we
all yearn for things in our lives which we feel would make us complete, I
yearned so much for children, because I
felt they would make my life more meaningful and complete and how dare someone
to say to me to turn down or shut off my yearning, when they are having the
experience of raising children, whether difficult
or not.
It is important
then to use wisdom when we try to help each other out along certain lines, in life. We have to allow
people to pave their own pathways and have their own experiences
so that they can learn from these experiences, which should make them
better, stronger individuals.
DON’T CHEAT THEM OUT OF THIS.
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