This Friday’s
light moment feature will have a teachable moment as well, and it is once again
courtesy of our four year old son, so here goes:
Recently my
husband had reasons to scold our son and he did it in a raised tone. Our son responded soon after, “daddy you should not
talk to me like that, because we are family.” His dad then responded, it is
because you did not obey me at first why I had to talk to you like that. He was
still quite obviously upset.
For us both it
was a light moment, but I was soon forced to really look into what he was
saying. As family we do cause each other hurt, albeit, unintentionally but
sadly, sometimes it is intentional. During my struggles with infertility, my
mom said some things to me that made me quite upset. I was able to forgive her
and move on only because I knew it was not intentional that she was hurting me.
I also believe in the love she has for all her children and I knew it was
because she could not deal with the fact that one of us was hurting so deeply
and wanted me to snap out of the depression and misery that I was in.
It challenges me to think that an innocent
four year old would know that as family, we should always thrive to, not hurt,
but to honour and love each other. I do know that sometimes hurt is caused unintentionally,
but we should not hesitate to validate each other’s feelings and apologise. When
next you are in a conflict with a loved one, do remember that when everything
else in your life changes, your family is the only constant.
The latter part
of a verse from the passage Matthew 21 verse 15 (KJV) comes to mind........Yea:
out of the mouth of babes and sucklings thou hast perfected praise. Do not take
too lightly then, what our children say to us from time to time, because we
could indeed learn quite a few things from them and be better for it. Do know
also that children are closer to the heart of God than we are.
As May, being child month approaches, followed by family month, June, let us be mindful of this.
As May, being child month approaches, followed by family month, June, let us be mindful of this.
HAPPY FRIDAY ALL
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