ARE YOU A HAPPY MOTHER???

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There was no doubt about it, I was going to be a blissfully happy mother, should I be given this privileged opportunity and I know many women who have ever struggled with infertility, had this image in their minds as well.

 I was given this opportunity which I have fully embrace and is forever grateful to God for. The reality is, I am indeed happy, but not always blissfully happy and I find this strange because as one who yearned for so long to become a mother, I thought that it would be no problem for me to totally remain in the moment and enjoy every minute of it, no matter what.

Motherhood, in fact, let us not leave out fathers, parenting for that matter, is hard work and does have moments when we are not as happy as we would otherwise have wanted to be. There are a lot of stressful moments, like those when you wonder seriously if you came home from the hospital with the right child, because of  how mischievous and difficult they get at times. You question your capabilities of nurturing and caring for another human being to the point where they can take care of themselves and make their own decisions, and you go out of your mind with fear about their safety. Not to mention the fact that  you spend a lot of your time and energy competing with other parents, making sure that your child has the most expensive toys and clothes and just simply, the best of everything.

Sadly, we lose ourselves in this chaos and no longer indulge in those moments that make us truly happy, enjoying our children, laughing and playing with them. My three year old son always invites me to get down on the floor and play with him, and quite honestly, apart from the fact that, because of my age, it is quite a task to get down on the floor, let alone to get back up, I often have second thoughts about actually responding to his request, because I am thinking, what else, more worthwhile could I be doing. Before long, though, I am made to realise that this is the most worthwhile thing that any mother could do for their child. Show me a mother who is so present in their child’s life that they do not hesitate to get down on the ground to play with them and is still able to effectively scold them when necessary, and I will show you a fortunate and happy child who will no doubt become a successful adult later on.

Dr. Meg Meeker’s life revolves around caring for children, being a paediatrician, and says she sees a lot of burnt out, unhappy mothers on a daily basis and so she wants to help us become happy again.

In her book, ‘10 Habits of Happy Mothers’ Dr. Meeker is putting her  twenty-five years of experience as a practicing paediatrician and counsellor into a sound, sane approach to reshaping the frustrating, exhausting lives of so many moms.

By implementing the key strategies in Dr. Meeker’s book - getting back to the basics of parenting, you can be happy, hopeful, and a wonderful role model. You can teach your children to be the very best they can be—and isn’t that still the most precious reward of motherhood?

If you are interested in this book, it can be purchased directly from link on left, from from Amazon.com

SOMETIMES, JUST ‘I AM SORRY’ WILL DO

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A miscarriage is a very difficult thing for any woman to have to experience and women who struggle with infertility, sadly,  find themselves dealing with miscarriages as well.

When I lost our daughter, my husband arranged that I stayed at my sister’s, to ensure that I would not be alone in the days following my miscarriage, and when I went to my sister’s the day after my release from the hospital, I was in tears. My sister hugged me without saying a single word, while I cried and that was enough for me in that moment. 

My mom said something to me, during that time that meant so much, she said that, ‘God saw how beautiful our daughter was and decided to keep her for himself.’ I am not sure why that meant so much to me, but it did.

Having said this, there are persons who, with all good intentions, just say the wrong things to women who are grieving after miscarrying.  

A fellow blogger is very kind to have come up with 10 things that should not be said to a woman who has just suffered a miscarriage and these include not saying:-

1. Its probably for the best
2. You can always try again

Why not check out the rest:-

http://www.trying-to-conceive.com/miscarriage/top-10-horrible-comments-women-get-after-a-miscarriage/

She has also advised that just saying sorry, is all that is needed.

LIGHT MOMENT FRIDAYS – Feature 6 - 'THE BOOTS'

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All of us who struggle with infertility can attest to the fact that it robs us of our happiness. It robs us of our ability to truly laugh and this is why I have come up with this new feature on my blog, called ‘Light Moment Fridays.’ I love Fridays, and I guess it is because this is the beginning of a well awaited weekend. I love the casual laid back mood. This is why I have chosen Fridays for this, where I will post short jokes and funny videos. Our son is at the stage now where he says or does things which is so hilarious, so I will share some of those precious moments with you as well.

This is for you all, especially those of us who struggle to be happy, amidst our hurts and pain.......DO ENJOY!!!!

                                 

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Children are just precious, aren't they?

THE BOOTS

LOOK WHAT YOU HAVE TO LOOK FORWARD TO - AGAIN
(Anyone who has ever dressed a child will love this)
 
Did you hear about the teacher who was helping one of her pupils put on his boots? He asked
for help and she could see why. Even with her pulling and him pushing, the little boots still
didn't want to go on. By the time they got the second boot on, she had worked up a sweat..
She almost cried when the little boy said, 'Teacher, they're on the wrong feet.'
She looked, and sure enough, they were.. It wasn't any easier pulling the boots off than it was putting them on.
She managed to keep her cool as, together, they worked to get the boots back on, this
time on the correct feet.
He then announced, 'These aren't my boots.'
She bit her tongue, rather than get right in his face and scream, 'Why didn't you say so? ' like she wanted to. Once again she struggled to help him pull the ill-fitting boots off his little feet.
No sooner had they gotten the boots off when he said, 'They're my brother's boots. My Mum made me wear 'em.'
Now she didn't know if she should laugh or cry But she mustered up what grace and
courage she had left to wrestle the boots on his feet again..
Helping him into his coat, she asked, 'Now, where are your mittens?' He said, 'I stuffed 'em in the toes of my boots.'

 She will be eligible for parole in three years.