MONDAY RAMBLINGS: "A little wisdom goes a long way……."

It won’t  hurt  if we use wisdom when we speak to each other concerning certain subjects, like, for someone who  is struggling with infertility, don’t tell them that their struggles is a blessing in disguise because of how expensive  and difficult it is to raise children. Trust me, they won’t see it that way and they will resent you.  During my infertility struggles, I had  it said to me a few times, why was I so stressed about having children, It got to me even more when someone I cared about a lot told me that she does not thin k that she would be so stressed and troubled if she had to struggle to have children. I knew she meant well, but I just could not receive that at the moment, instead I said to myself, how cruel, how could she say this when she has a child.

In the same way, you , a married individual, cannot say to someone who wants to be married  to never do it because marriage is hard  work and that they should be happy they are  currently alone and have no one to answer to. I know you most likely mean well, but they will resent you for saying this.

The thing is , we all yearn for things in our lives which we feel would make us complete, I yearned so much for  children, because I felt they would make my life more meaningful and complete and how dare someone to say to me to turn down or shut off my yearning, when they are having the experience of  raising children, whether difficult or not.

It is important then to use wisdom when we try to help each other out  along certain lines, in life. We have to allow people to pave their own pathways and have their own  experiences  so that they can learn from these experiences, which should make them better, stronger  individuals.

DON’T CHEAT THEM OUT OF THIS.

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INFERTILITY FACTS, NEWS AND VIEWS - Endometriosis: there could be better treatment and management.....

Endometriosis, a condition affecting over 176 million women and girls, occurs when endometrial tissue, which lines the inside of the uterus, is found outside. In the majority of cases, this tissue is usually trapped in the pelvic area or lower abdomen, but it can also be found in other areas of the body.

Endometriosis is a common cause of infertility problems.

Researchers from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology say they have uncovered cellular activity that may provide a better understanding of the mechanisms behind the condition. This is according to a study recently published in the journal Science Translational Medicine.

While the cause of endometriosis is largely unknown, the researchers say that they know there is a genetic component, an environmental component and an inflammatory component, but it is difficult to tract the exact series of events leading to individual patient’s symptoms.

The Researchers  say  their findings could lead to the creation of better drugs for this condition and  help to determine the best treatment for patients. resulting in better management. Further, these  findings could make it possible for the development of a  "patient stratification system" similar to that used for breast cancer patients. This involves treatments being individually developed and tailored to the molecular characteristics of patients' tumors.

Great news I might say, since so many women struggle with infertility caused by endometriosis.

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GRATEFUL WEDNESDAYS - FAITH UNDER FIRE

Today I am grateful for Faith.

“Now Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. For by it, the elders received a good report.” Hebrews 11 verses 1 & 2 - KJV

At a time in my life, if someone told me about faith, I would have asked, faith who? I knew faith existed and I knew it could be used to enhance my life, but I just did not know how to use it and as a micro-manager, I guess I did not think I had any use for faith.

Later on in my life, I found I had to draw on my faith and so I made the effort to find out what it was all about and put it to the test.

I remember when my infertility issues began taking its toll on me, I felt I needed a break and so I decided that a trip to the United States, could help. I had gone to the American Embassy a couple times before and they had turned me down. This time, I would not take no for an answer and so I called a travel agency, booked my flight, then I went to the Embassy to ask for my visa. Yes, it had to be there waiting for me to have had such audacity. Let’s say, that vacation did me good.

As my infertility issues took its toll on me, I knew somehow that I would come through it victoriously. There were times, I must admit, when this hope stood on shaky ground, when I felt like I had gotten to the end of my rope, but I tied a knot and held on for dear life, I held firmly to the thinnest thread of faith. God rewarded me as you all know by now, and I have the gifts to show. My mother-in-law reminded me of my faith in this regard, when I shared with her our current plight.

I cannot count the ways that he has used our faith to bless our family financially and even as I pen this,  he continues to work in our finances in ways that is beyond words.

We have now come to a point in our life, where we are forced to put our faith to the test again. We are about to embark on a very significant move, but the thing is, our faith is being frustrated by well-meaning critics, who feel that our fabric is not up to the test. Let me say here that I do respect and appreciate their interest in our well-being, but our God who is above all and knows all, stands ready to help too, and I want to give him that chance. In all fairness, though, for all we know, God could be using these critics in his overall plan, to convince us that what they are proposing is the plan he has for us as well, but you know what, I am not at the point yet where I believe that God is, by any means, through working his plan out and so I am challenged to continue to seek him to the very end. With this said, I hope it is not my own naïve agenda speaking here, but I will allow God to be the judge of that.

God is not known to lie about his promises and as experience has taught me, once I am aligned with his will, I have every confidence that he will reveal to me his plan and equip us for its undertaking, to his honour and glory.

I am therefore extremely grateful for having allowed faith into my life.

BE BLESSED ALL!!!!