HONOUR FOR CAYLEE

I guess by now, most of us have invested in this ongoing trial involving a mother, Casey Anthony who was being tried for the murder of her daughter, Caylee, who went missing and was later found dead, in the summer, about three years ago.

I must say, I was one of those who was somewhat upset when she was found innocent of murder, two days ago and only felt better after hearing her Prosecutor said, “If you are going to understand the legal system any at all, you must understand also, that sometimes, things just won’t go to the way you expect them to.” Also, the evidences could not lead to a murder conviction.

As I watch bits and pieces of this trial over the past weeks, I could not help my anger. Everyone was so busy trying to clear themselves of being connected in any way to this tragic death, lying if they have to, and all this time, I could not believe the different stories that came about. Why was no one thinking about Caylee. Of all the persons who gave testimonies, family and otherwise, someone must know something about this innocent child’s death, whether it be accident or otherwise. Why then is no one moved to honour this child’s memory by being direct and truthful about what really happened. She deserves closure and deserves to rest in peace.

I have heard that her mother was nineteen years old when she was born and the pregnancy was unwanted, but after watching footage of mother and daughter enjoying playtime, everyone can conclude that she seems wanted and loved. Why then would her mother wait a month before reporting her missing. If my child was missing, I would probably report it even before the required time had elapsed (48 hours as I understand it). Most of all though, why would she lie to the authorities when being questioned, when she is a mother and is expected to love and most of all be the protector of any child entrusted to her?

I was further upset when I see all the hugs and congratulations that Casey received after being proven innocent. I don’t know that I would want to be congratulated like that if I was in her position, because, in my opinion, no one should feel like a winner here, Caylee is still dead and it seem we are still nowhere closer in knowing how she died and her mother lied to the authorities to protect herself.

I understand that there are a lot outraged people out there because of the outcome of this trial and I can very much see why. Barring the part the legal system played, there are a lot odd outcome from this trial. Caylee was two when she died and I remember being so protective of my son at that age. Why were those who should have been protecting her seemingly not around  to protect her from her demise, when she needed them most. I know the defense theory is that she drowned accidentally in the family pool and accidents like that happens from time to time, but given the dynamics of this case, this is hard to digest.

I really hope this case will eventually have closure and Caylee will receive the honour she deserves.

 image by: http://news.yahoo.com/jurors-cried-felt-sick-acquitting-anthony-012228871.html

WE HAVE INDEED COME A LONG WAY

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand

Psalm 127: 3 and 4

“HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE"

I remember when I was struggling with infertility, I yearned so much to see any mention in the media about it.  I wanted so much to connect with people who were struggling as I was, because I know they were out there and a lot of them too.

We have come a long way.  Guilliana and Bill Rancic of ‘Gulliana and Bill’ which airs on the style network, have invited us to come along on this journey with them in their pursuit to have a child of their own and I must say, I am so happy this is happening

I remember when I was first pregnant, I won a story competition, hosted by one of our local television stations. We were asked to submit our love story and say why our story should be the winning one. I did not hesitate to include our struggles with infertility and how we had weathered that storm and was about to welcome our long awaited child. Well, my story won and it was quite daunting knowing that we had to appear on public television for all the world to see and hear that we had indeed struggled with infertility and that was very frightening for me, to say the least, so I cannot imagine having a camera following me, every step of the way, as I embark on this very emotional journey.

I know Gullliana and Bill must have often asked themselves, as others have, why they are dong this, and it must be frightening as well, to think that they are putting themselves out there like this, because it is such a personal and private journey, but on the other hand, I know they have applauded themselves for taking this risk and is comforted in knowing that their story will help, if it is only just one couple who is also struggling in this regard.

They did Invitro-fertilization and was successful, but sadly loss the pregnancy at 8 weeks, due to a chromosomal abnormality. They were hurt deeply, as you can well imagine, by this, but they still maintain great  courage and positiveness, that they will one day, be able to embrace the fruit of their labor.

My thoughts and and prayers go out to them.

"THIS TOO SHALL PASS......."

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand

Psalm 127: 3 & 4

"HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE"

Are you dealing with grief of any kind at the moment, the loss of your fertility, the loss of a pregnancy that you have been praying for, for so long, the loss of a loved one, it could even be the loss of financial freedom, yes ,you could be grieving for so many things.

Grief is a process, and it starts first with shock and denial, I cannot believe this is happening to me, no, it just couldn’t. As the shock wears off, it is replaced with pain and guilt, this is a step you must allow yourself to experience, as hard as it may be, as it is very important or you will find that the process not only takes longer, but is also harder. (Have you ever met anyone who cannot seem to get pass their grief, be it many years since? Well, it could be that they have escaped dealing with the pain and guilt associated with their loss). Then comes anger, you are angry, sometimes it is with God, how could he allow this to happen to me? Then you move into depression and loneliness as you try to deal with the emptiness you are feeling as a result of your loss. (I remember when I was grieving the loss of my daughter, this was the hardest stage for me. This emptiness is really hard to put into words). Then comes the upward turn, you begin to adjust to life without that which you have lost and start making plans to move on. Then finally, there is acceptance, you suddenly realize that you are not the only one dealing with things of this nature, and have also come to terms with that fact that life is all about uncertainty and change.You realize too, that you are not grieving as much anymore, you are not all together happy, but life seem worth living again. It is often time, a long road to this point though, but what is important is that this process is taking place as you grieve, and no matter how long and hard, we all usually get to a place of acceptance and gradually peace.

Just allow me to join with the very decorated gospel singer, Yolanda Adams, to remind you, that this too shall pass. Even though it might seem now that you are trapped in this dark cave of grief, take heart, you will one day wake up and suddenly realize that you are seeing the light of day again.

This post is dedicated to a fellow blogger, who lost her long awaited pregnancy this week, at 8 weeks gestational age. I know only too well, the pain you and yours is in girl, but just so you know, you are in my prayers and God will see you through.