"THIS TOO SHALL PASS......."

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand

Psalm 127: 3 & 4

"HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE"

Are you dealing with grief of any kind at the moment, the loss of your fertility, the loss of a pregnancy that you have been praying for, for so long, the loss of a loved one, it could even be the loss of financial freedom, yes ,you could be grieving for so many things.

Grief is a process, and it starts first with shock and denial, I cannot believe this is happening to me, no, it just couldn’t. As the shock wears off, it is replaced with pain and guilt, this is a step you must allow yourself to experience, as hard as it may be, as it is very important or you will find that the process not only takes longer, but is also harder. (Have you ever met anyone who cannot seem to get pass their grief, be it many years since? Well, it could be that they have escaped dealing with the pain and guilt associated with their loss). Then comes anger, you are angry, sometimes it is with God, how could he allow this to happen to me? Then you move into depression and loneliness as you try to deal with the emptiness you are feeling as a result of your loss. (I remember when I was grieving the loss of my daughter, this was the hardest stage for me. This emptiness is really hard to put into words). Then comes the upward turn, you begin to adjust to life without that which you have lost and start making plans to move on. Then finally, there is acceptance, you suddenly realize that you are not the only one dealing with things of this nature, and have also come to terms with that fact that life is all about uncertainty and change.You realize too, that you are not grieving as much anymore, you are not all together happy, but life seem worth living again. It is often time, a long road to this point though, but what is important is that this process is taking place as you grieve, and no matter how long and hard, we all usually get to a place of acceptance and gradually peace.

Just allow me to join with the very decorated gospel singer, Yolanda Adams, to remind you, that this too shall pass. Even though it might seem now that you are trapped in this dark cave of grief, take heart, you will one day wake up and suddenly realize that you are seeing the light of day again.

This post is dedicated to a fellow blogger, who lost her long awaited pregnancy this week, at 8 weeks gestational age. I know only too well, the pain you and yours is in girl, but just so you know, you are in my prayers and God will see you through.