“TAKE THAT BELLY OFF YOU AND PUT RIGHT HERE,” SHE SAID

Ever since it is known that I am expecting, everyone has been so excited and happy for us. I have been showered with attention and people just want to know how I am doing, when I am due, and what sex baby I will be having. I am always so happy to respond to them and very happy for the attention.

One day recently, I saw this lady watching me walk up to her. She had this smile on her face as she said to me, “take that belly off you and put right here,” and was touching her stomach. I smiled and continued walking, not quite sure what or how to respond.

For the rest of the day, I played it over and over again in my head. This lady, I know had a hard time conceiving and have been since blessed with a darling son. Did she want more children? Probably, I thought, and maybe she indeed tried but was not able to have any more.

I felt a sadness in my heart for her, because I remember when we decided that it was only fair that our son had company and began trying, and realised that we were dealing with secondary infertility, I was sad, and felt myself heading down the same road of despair that I was on before I had our son, having heard that once you became pregnant and have a healthy child, it should not be hard to conceive again. It was not so for us, as we had to draw on the same program we used (herbs, proper diet and exercise), when we became pregnant with our son.

Infertility hurt from any angle and because of my intense struggle with it, I am very aware and sensitive to people who, I believe is hurting in this regard.

That is one of the positives that struggling with infertility gave me and I am forever grateful.












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WHY CAN'T I GIVE MY CHILD A SIBLING??????

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand

Psalm 127: 3 and 4

“HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE"

Secondary infertility affects many couples, in fact it accounts for up to 60% of all infertility cases, yet many seem to not see this as a genuine issue for those lives it touches.

If you have been dealing with secondary infertility, then this post, from a fellow blogger, is for you.

http://infertility-fertility.blogspot.com/2010/10/some-reasons-why-women-cant-have-their.html

ALL THE BEST and continue to hold on to hope.

Yes, secondary infertility does hurt too

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand.”
Psalm 127: 3 & 4

One of my fellow bloggers did a recent post entitled, "secondary infertility does hurt as well," and I feel compelled to share her post with my readers, to stress the fact that persons suffering from secondary infertility do hurt too.

Secondary infertility is when a woman, after carrying a pregnancy to term fails to carry a subsequent one to term. This can be due to various factors, endometriosis, polycystic ovarian syndrome and age among others.

The thing is, many women suffering from secondary infertility get pushed aside because they often have feelings of guilt that they are yearning for more children when some are still struggling to have even one and quite rightly so, because women suffering from primary infertility (the inability to become pregnant at all) do resent these women, thinking that they are selfish to want more children, when they are still struggling to have one. It is selfish to think that anyone should settle for just one child and many women know what their ideal family should look like and does not stop trying for children until they have reached this target. Primary infertiles do know this I am sure but when you are struggling with infertility, as per my experience, you do behave irrationally at times.

I know of a few persons who are suffering with secondary infertility and it does hurt just as much as primary infertility sufferers. I myself is suffering in this regard seeing that I carried my son to term two years ago and still had a miscarriage a few months ago.

With that said, please follow the link to see my fellow blogger’s post and article on this subject and see also the comments of other women suffering from secondary infertility.

http://infertility-fertility.blogspot.com/2009/06/secondary-infertility-hurts-too.html



Until next time



Keep clinging to hope