ARE CESEAREN SECTIONS NOW A FAD MORE THAN A MEDICAL MUST DO?

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand

Psalm 127: 3 & 4

“HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE"

When I was pregnant with my son, very early on in the pregnancy, I somehow knew I would have a c-section. There were no medical reasons for me to think so, but I do consider myself as having a sixth sense, and my husband is quite scared of my thoughts because of this, as about eighty percent of the things I think might happen, really do happen. As a result of this, I made sure that I had monies secured to do this surgery.


There was nothing throughout the pregnancy that indicated that I would have had to do a c-section, and my doctor was quite prepared for me to have a normal birth. I soon began thinking that maybe, just maybe, I would do a normal birth and became so excited at the monies that I would have saved in this regard, that I began making plans of how I would spend it. Somewhere around the 39th week of my pregnancy, my son was breached and my doctor quickly told me that by the end of the week, he should assume position for a normal birth. She did mention that she did not want to cut me at all, and so she had motivation for saying this as well. He had assumed position for a normal birth by the end of that week, and so I reported to the maternity centre to give birth, even though there were hardly any indications that I was in labor.

I had to do a labor induction, but still no labor resulted. My midwives employed other induction procedures (warm showers, walks, bouncing on a ball), but still nothing happened, and after hours of stress and frustration, I begged my doctor to do a c-section, because I was afraid that my baby would have been affected by all the stress.

It was at the time of my surgery, that my doctor discovered that I had an inverted pelvis. My pelvic bones were narrower than was normal and so my son’s head could not pass through and this was what prevented labor from happening. It did not help however, that my son has a big head (smile).

I know many women have no choice but to do a c-section, as was my case. Some even emergency, because of critical medical conditions, but there are others who opt for this because of casual reasons. Some do not want the hassle of pushing and some want to have complete control over when their children are born, to fit into their lifestyles.

In Hollywood, it is found that many women are opting for an elective c-section as against a normal birth. See who these women are and why they are making this decision:-

“Reports say that 80% of American women get some form of medical pain relief during childbirth. A growing number of women are requesting delivery by elective cesarean section. This trend is due in part to celebrities such as Victoria Beckham, Eilzabeth Hurley, Britney Spears, Claudia Schiffer and Christina Aguilera, making the elective C-section the "it" activity of the decade……..”


Read more:-
 http://www.celebritybabyscoop.com/2010/04/16/celebrities-who-chose-natural-vs-c-section-births

"I LOVE MY CHILDREN, BUT I HATE MY LIFE"

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand

Psalm 127: 3 & 4

“HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE”

Hey all, its been a long time and I miss you a lot.  My laptop motherboard is gone so this means a new laptop and sadly, because of other priorities, we wont be able to buy one any time soon.  Fortunately for me, from time to time I get access to a computer and so I have decided to post something whenever I get these opportunities, as being able to add my encouragement in my own small way, to you who are struggling with infertility, means a lot to me. Do continue to swing by my blog, as this will continue to make me very happy.

Now on to my post...........

In my ten years of struggling with infertility, because of how unhappy I was, I always thought that whenever I managed to have children, I would be so blissfully happy, that it would seem like Christmas everyday.

Then reality struck.  I have to deal fatigue caused by lack of sleep, I have to deal with the feeling that I am not capable to care for this very fragile human being and as he transitions into a toddler, the temper tantrums, the stubbornness, you name it, so as you can well imagine, unhappiness do creep in.

I am finding out though, that I am not the only one who goes through this, many parents (especially mothers) do from time to time.

The Today show on NBC did a segment recently, entitled, “I love my children, but I hate my life,” and this is simply dealing with the same issues that I, and many other parents do have in this regard and thank goodness, this seems pretty normal.

The segment points out that the reason that we parents feel this way, is because we set ourselves up to feel like this from the beginning, as we embrace the opinion that parenting should be a happy, joyful time all the time and this holds even more true for parents who have had to deal with the anxiety and unhappiness of waiting, because of infertility, to have their children.

The stay-at-home Mom, was focussed on, as many who resort to this option, often feel a sense of guilt that they are not out there helping their spouse to provide for their growing family which sadly, often lead to feelings of inadequacy, which ultimately leads to unhappiness.

The segment (which was presented by mothers who have had to deal with these issues and want to help others) went on to encourage us to quickly let go of the notion that parenting will be happy all the time, because in reality this is hardly the case. Instead, we should first and foremost try to determine if we do feel fulfilled just being parents and then make an effort to focus on those times when we are happiest. Those very simple and tender moments when your child, on tip-toes hug you and say, ‘I love you Mommy.’ For me, it is the times when after giving my son something he asked for, he takes the time to say, ‘thank you Mama,’ with such a sweet innocent tone, without being prompted to do this.

I love my son eternally, but like many parents, I do have those moments when I think back at how my life was without him and if I am not careful, in my human selfish way, would want to wish that things had not changed. No having to give up my favourite programmes so that the television can be stuck on the Disney Channel all day so that he can watch his programmes whenever he wishes. No kicks and prodding in my bed when he decides he prefers to be in the middle of mommy and Daddy instead of in his own room, after we had drawn on all the creative energy we possess to make it comfortable.

With this all said, I know if I did not have him, those things would not matter at all, I would be so unhappy and miserable, wanting to give up anything just to have a child in my life.

All parents, be encouraged and for all those still on the very unkind and difficult road to have children, just keep fighting and hold on tight to hope.

Catch you next time.