Wednesday, May 13, 2009

ON VACATION

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warriors hand
Psalm 127: 3 & 4


Just letting you know that we made it to our son’s great grandmother’s funeral and it was just like she lived, peaceful and simple. I feel a lot better now.


We will be staying on for a few days to spend time with family and unfortunately, after this I will not have access to a computer, so I will not be blogging for a about a week and a half.


Catch up with you when I am back.

Until then, keep clinging to hope

Saturday, May 9, 2009

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warriors hand
Psalm 127: 3 & 4











It is indeed a great privilege to wish you all a happy Mother’s Day and I am very happy that I am now a part of this very esteemed group.

Mothers Day of 2007 found me very pregnant (eight months) with my son and as the mothers at my Church were called up to be honored, I remember sitting there wondering, should I go, I am not really a mother as yet, but for sure God's willing, I will be when the next one comes around. As I sat there pondering, someone came and suggested that I joined the other mothers. I got up promptly because by then I started thinking, of course I am a mother, It was only a little over a year ago that I gave birth to our daughter. She was dead, but her spirit and soul is very much alive and so that should qualify me.

Might I say that I gave birth in the normal natural way reserved for any normal pregnancy. I felt the same pains, maybe not as intense as a full term pregnancy, but it was pain nevertheless.

As I started walking to join the other mothers, tears began to well up in my eyes. I was crying because finally I was taking this walk, a walk that I yearned for, for so many years now. I was also crying because in exactly a month my struggles with infertility would be over as I would give birth to my son and would not have to wonder mothers days to come, if I was so qualified.


I know Mothers days are hard for those struggling to be a mother. Many mothers days passed, during my struggle, I had to actually will myself to not fall to pieces and had to, on occasions purchase something new to wear to Church to boost my spirits.

I remember the Mothers day after we lost our daughter, my goddaughter called very early in the morning to wish me happy Mother’s day, just when I was thinking that I might not be able to make it through the day. I got out of bed shortly thereafter as I received renewed hope and was so encouraged that one special little girl felt that I meant so much to her for her to do that.

So be encouraged, something might just come your way this Mothers day to remind you that you matter. You might not be a mother but someone might just think you are special to honor you in some way this Mothers day.

I feel compelled to tell you, your HAPPY MOTHERS DAY might be just around the bend, so keep clinging to hope.



ALL THE VERY BEST!!!!!!

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Disciplining our ‘miracle baby’

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand.”
Psalm 127: 3 & 4






During my journey of trying to conceive, I often came across kids that were rude, would not listen to their parents and even hit them back when they try to discipline them. I said to myself on many occasions that no way would I allow any child of mine to do that to me, especially in public.

When we took our son home from the hospital, he was so defenseless, so calm. We were on cloud nine and did not even bother to think that soon things would change, as we will be faced with the challenges of disciplining him. He is now at the age where he is defiant and is throwing tantrums, when you take things from him he throws himself on the ground and how we usually deal with this is to just walk away from him and let him cry it off.

A few weeks ago, he threw a new one and guess what, we were out, we were around people. Apparently someone had taken something from him that did not belong to him and he was upset. I was frightened and all the thoughts I had of not allowing any child of mine to get away with being rude like this in public, went through the window, as I was now the parent in the spotlight being subjected to scrutiny and faced with the challenge of doing the right thing. This child began the worst cry I ever heard coming from a child, while scratching at both myself and his dad, with nails that he would not allow us to cut unless he is asleep.

The situation turned into a nightmare as a male parent who was there, saw what was happening and said his son tried that, and he was only allowed to try it once. The tone he said it in made me flush with embarrassment and a little anger as I thought to myself, ok, what does he want me to do abuse my child and worst of all publicly? I also know disciplining them in public is not the best either, as it causes them embarrassment and might actually make the situation worse. We decided there and then to take him aside and managed to muster up enough courage to give this out of control child a slap and he bawled and scratched for the better. Everyone’s eyes were glued on us and all of them knew that this child was special, our miracle child, and I could see in their stares that they were not impressed at how we were handling the situation. We probably did not seem serious enough about disciplining our son. I decided to lighten up things a bit by declaring that this was a new tantrum, one that he had never done before. I don’t know what I really wanted to achieve from saying that, maybe that we were not prepared for this one.

Upon reaching home, the tantrum was obviously one that he had planned to reserve for when we are out in public, as he never repeated it.

That was a lesson learnt and even though it pains our hearts deeply to have to slap him real hard at times because he does get defiant, we know we have to do it, because we really do not want a repeat of that situation. He has the habit of cowering so much, when we attempt to slap him and that makes it a little difficult as well, because you then begin to feel sorry for him. I remember saying to my husband that this child will get us into trouble if he does that in public because it might seem as if we are abusing him at home. They know how to get to you.

I am told that you cannot be too easy on especially boys because they will test you to the limit and so we have to make the effort daily to keep him in line, knowing that we are doing it purely out of love for him and he will be a better man for it one day so that he too can be effective at disciplining his own children. I also know that the journey to conceiving him was by no means easy and therefore we will not settle for less than a disciplined and well-placed child.

I know some of you who have such miracle babies can identify with us on this, therefore your comments and any advice are welcomed.






Until next time, others of you struggling to have your miracle babies, keep clinging to hope and do take lessons from this.





Monday, May 4, 2009

The relationship between Ovarian Cysts and Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome


“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand.”
Psalm 127: 3 & 4




I have been meaning to research on the above to find out the relationship between these conditions. I have been thinking that they are the same and have on ocasions referred to my PCOS as ovarian cysts, only because their names seem quite similar.

It was just a few days ago, a reader of my site asked me how both are related and because I was not able to give her a proper answer. I have decided once and for all to do the research for my own sake and my readers.

“Women with Insulin Resistance and obesity-related Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) have cysts that pose different levels of concern.Ovarian cysts fall into various categories.

In the United States, ovarian cysts of some type are prevalent in nearly all pre-menopausal women and 14.8 percent of post-menopausal women (1). These cysts are fluid-filled sacs located within or on the outside wall of the ovary.

The majority of ovarian cysts are benign; they cannot be prevented and frequently will go away without treatment. Some cysts grow painfully large and must be removed. Studies have also shown that women who are past menopause and who have ovarian cysts have a higher risk of ovarian cancer (2).”









Type of functional ovarian cysts












typical polycystic ovaries


Click on the link below to continue reading from the site and please make note that polycystic ovarian sydrome is a type of ovarian cysts.

http://pcos.insulitelabs.com/PCOS-and-Ovarian-Cysts.php

Hope this information is of great help to you. Feel free to click on any relevant links on the right of this page.






Until next time, keep clinging to hope.

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Progesterone Infertility

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.
Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hand.”
Psalm 127: 3 & 4


In my research on the causes of infertility, Progesterone Infertility is never mentioned as one the more popular cases of infertility and as a result of this, it does not get the attention as the other more popular ones.

What is Progesterone infertility?

“Progesterone infertility can mean there's either an excess of estrogen, a condition called estrogen dominance, or there's a deficiency of progesterone.
Progesterone and estrogen are two vital hormones to the life and well-being of every woman. However, progesterone is the hormone of fertility and pregnancy.”

Please click on the following links to continue reading about Progesterone infertility and how it can be treated using supplementary progesterone cream. I am not sure how available this product is worldwide, but it does not hurt to ask your doctor about this treatment.


If you have been diagnosed with infertility of this kind, the above sites will be helpful to you.
Just a reminder of one important point I made in my infertility story. When you are diagnosed it is always beneficial to research as much as possible on your condition so that you will be able to contribute to your treatment process in a meaningful and informed manner. This can no doubt lead to a shorter and more productive treatment process so that your dreams of having the family you desire can become a reality much sooner.


Until next time, keep clinging to hope.